Keeping love alive isn’t as simple as the occasional bouquet, fancy dinner, or anything else you see played out time and time again in the movies. Instead, cultivating real love takes lots and lots of hard work — and letting your partner know how much you care, even when times get to be difficult.
Below, we’ve put together 23 different ways to let someone know you’re the most important person to them, and they’re not all as obvious as you might think. A solid relationship is built with trust, understanding, and mutual respect — and unless you give your partner all those things and more, you will end up losing them for good.
From respecting their space to knowing when to show up for support, these pointers will let your significant other know that no matter what, there’s a place for them in your heart. And if you do things right, that means they’ll be a place for you in theirs, too.
#1. Keep in touch.
Life is full, and our schedules can feel pretty packed. Despite that, it’s important to keep a line of communication between you and the one you love. Reaching out to them regularly will let them know you care.
#2. If you love them, say it.
There’s not one person who doesn’t like to hear when someone loves them. Don’t be afraid to speak your mind when it comes to your loved one. Sometimes, a little “I love you” can go a long way.
#3. Look your best for them.
Let’s face it: If a person doesn’t love you at your worst, they certainly don’t deserve you at your best. That said, there’s nothing wrong with putting yourself together nicely to catch your significant other’s eye.
#4. Try not to fight.
There’s a big difference between couples who stay together and couples who break up: How they fight. If you’re constantly ratcheting up the tension, you’re not going to be able to maintain your relationship. Instead, try to keep things calm.
#5. Tell them they’re worth everything to you.
Do not miss even a single opportunity to make them feel special. This can mean cooking their favorite food, or taking them to their favorite place. No matter what, always make it known that you care.